2. Making mistakes. I want her to understand that it's okay to make mistakes in life and that making mistakes only makes us stronger, makes us who we are. I want her to know about the mistakes I've made in life like getting married far too young first time around when I thought I knew it all. Without my subsequent divorce, I wouldn't have met my gorgeous husband Matt and we wouldn't have her, our beautiful daughter.
3. Being young and carefree (aka stupid). I would like her to know about my teenage years and the things I used to get up to and what I hid from my parents. I want her to know that there was once a time when I was young and I did things that I look back on now and shudder at the thought of. I want her to know that I once went to Blackpool for the weekend with my boyfriend and a couple of friends when my parents thought I was staying at a friends house. Thankfully nothing went wrong but imagine if something had happened? I want her to know that I would like her to tell me everything for her own safety and that she can trust me completely and I'm a cool Mum.
4. Friends. I want her to know that my friends are hugely important to me, like an extended family. I want her to understand what the true meaning of friendship is and to hold on to a handful of true close/best friends throughout her life. I want her to know that, when I was in my teens and first started showing a proper interest in the opposite sex I still made time for my friends. I believe that is hugely important lesson in life because boyfriends come and go but true friends are there for life.
5. Last, but by no means least, I obviously want her to know just how much I love her. I want her to know that her Dad and I worship the ground she walks on. Every smile, every look, every word, every giggle, every tear and even every tantrum is felt with such unconditional love that I can't imagine a time when she wasn't in our lives. I started on my parenting journey later in life but she was definitely worth the wait.
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Oh my gosh, a few of us are feeling like this at the moment (point 1). I mentioned it when I posted Aaron's clapping video a massive SEVENTEEN days after he clapped :-(
and Mummy Squared's just posted the same sentiment.
We have to all get our perspective back I guess.
But when you meet other lovely bloggers it gets really addictive doesn't it...
I love this post and am tempted to join in. Right now I am trying to remember what day Reasons to be Cheerful goes live as that is my favourite meme.
Although FlashBack Friday is really new I love it already.
I love points 3 4 and 5 above.
I also started trying for a family late in life.
Lovely to be following your blog and your journey.
Liska xxx
What a lovely post :) Need to write mine tonight before the linky closes! x
P.S... Liska - R2BC goes live tonight!
Lovely H, really lovely post
That's a lovely post, I'd want my son to know the same things I think - about me of course not you, that would be a bit odd!
Love this idea!
Lovely post Heather. Having an honest, open relationship with your children is priceless. I never told my parents anything...I internalised so much and felt so alone. I never want my children to feel disconnected like I did.
Freya is lucky to have you as her Mummy xxx
Hi Heather great reasons. It seeems from the ones I've read that making mistakes is a key feature. How refreshing that we don't expect our children to get everything right all of the time.
I love this :-)
Definitely going to join in after reading your post xx
read yours and wanted to join in - thank you. love no. 3, *sings "be young, be foolish, be happy"* to you XX
I love the young-and-carefree-aka-stoopid comment. I think we've all been there. Not that our children will ever believe that of us...
Learning to make mistakes count is so important isn't it? My 9 and 7 year olds are both struggling with this concept atm, they want to get everything right 100% of the time.
Lovely post. I love the one about the friends, it's so important to have good friends and to know that they will see you through the good times and bad times. x
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